donderdag 6 mei 2010

Submission

Ik schreef in een eerder blogje over mijn ontdekte gevoelens m.b.t. onderdanig en overgave. Al snel wordt dat geassocieerd met BDSM en 'dus' allerlei extreme vormen van vernedering en kwelling en 'dus' mishandeling. Ik vond onderstaande tekst op internet en het geeft voor mij iig heel goed weer dat BDSM en aanverwante vormen van seksuele beleving niet gebaseerd is op ongelijkheid. Persoonlijk kan ik alleen totale overgave beleven als er enorm veel vertrouwen is en er sprake is van 100% gelijkwaardigheid. En uiteraard bij de juiste man, iemand die weet en zich realiseert wat hij doet.

"Submission is not about sex. Submission is not something one can learn. It is not sex. It is not dirty. Submission is beauty. It is a beauty that comes from the very soul of a submissive woman. It is a breaking down of the walls built up in her lifetime, allowing the beautiful, sensual woman to come through.

Submission is not about sex, it is about sensuality. It is about trust, communication, vulnerability, caring, and honesty. It is about being the graceful, sensual, beautiful woman that resides within.

Submission is about knowing who you are, and what you want. A submissive is NOT a weak person, but just the opposite. She is strong. She is strong in herself, and in the knowledge of who she is. She NEVER submits out of weakness or desperation. She submits out of strength, love, and trust.

Submission is freedom. It is a letting go of one's self, knowing that the dominant is there to catch you if you falter. It is about pushing to be the very best one can be, not only as a submissive, but as a woman, a person, a human being. It is about learning, growing, and giving.

Please don't get me wrong. Submission is not about donning rose colored glasses, and the world is fine. Nothing worthwhile will ever come that easy.

Submission is also about pain. There is no growth without pain, lest it be a temporary growth. There is no freedom without the inner struggle to let go. There is no sensuality without breaking down the barriers that took years to put into place."

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